This feeling so human to a greater or lesser extent is known to all of us. Fraternal jealousy, passionate jealousy, professional jealousy ... Suffering in own or other flesh that torments us with them. Expressed, drowned in the depths of our being ... jealousy has invaded us in one way or another at least in some relationship of our lives: whether in childhood, adolescence or maturity.
Now, there are some people to whom this feeling surpasses them and often brings them difficulties when it comes to relating. Not only do they suffer, but by manifesting this inevitable internal sensation instead of obtaining the response they expect from their object object, they usually get the opposite response that ends up completing the vicious circle that feeds this inner enemy.
Of the eight traits or indicators that we will name, they should find five or more to assume that it is the writing of a jealous. The more indicators that are present, the more likely the person is jealous and the greater difficulties they may face in their love ties.
The jealous writing
- Upper case separated from the following lower case
- Tilt to the left
- Final strokes down or back
- Small letters
- Large margins
- Enveloping heading
- Points and unnecessary stripes at the end of the paragraphs
- Small hooks at the end of the words
Upper case separated from the following lower case:
Capital letters are the maximum expression of the I. Represents the person who writes. The following letters represent the others. When a person lifts the pen or pencil after writing a capital letter, and then continues with the next letter, he is putting a distance, a pause for reflection or doubt before giving himself completely to the links with others. Even if the letters are very close, the mere fact of having cut the stroke, the flow of the ink, indicates that there is a separation between the capital letter and the next letter, between the “I” and the “you”.
This does not mean that it will never be offered to others, but it has certain reservations due to insecurity, mistrust or the need to reflect before it is shown (first known and then disclosed). This causes you to take precautions at first. This personality trait in itself would not imply jealousy. But if we think of a jealous person there are two ingredients that we can surely assume in the background: insecurity and distrust, both in himself and in the affection of others.
To evaluate this aspect of writing, you should carefully observe each capital letter that appears in the text. Make sure that the pen was not lifted from the sheet to classify it as a capital letter attached to the next lower case. To all those that although they are stuck (in graphology we call them reengaged), the stroke has been cut and will be classified as separate uppercase from lower case next. The last step will be to count the amount of each one and determine if there is a majority of separate capital letters to take this as a first indicator of jealousy present in the writing.
Tilt to the left:
Imagine that the letters are representing you standing on the imaginary line and walking from the left (from where you started writing) to the right (where the writing is headed). This little person that we imagine walking towards her goal, can make her upright, with the body turned forward as if wanting to reach her goal with more impulse ... or she can go backwards, as if someone stopped her holding her shirt.
On the right side of the sheet the future is symbolized, but also the others, the people with whom we link. Who writes with a lean to the left is reflecting a little distrust, some degree of withdrawal. In addition, this position reflects in some way that the person tends to look at himself, as self-absorbed in his own needs and this makes it difficult at times to see the needs of others as well as interpret the sayings and actions of others always in reference to themselves. (what we commonly call "the navel of the world"). Thus, this is the second feature that would indicate that it is possibly a jealous person.
Final strokes down or back:
The final strokes are all those strokes that, as the name implies, are last, that is, the pen rises from the sheet after making them. If we think of each stroke, word or set of letters as an accomplished task, and to the writing set as the purpose of this task group, the final strokes show us where we direct our efforts, the ultimate goal of our actions. It should be clarified that in addition to our conscious intentions there are also those of which we have no record but they push us anyway and many times despite us.
When the final strokes go down (lower zone) our efforts and actions are directed towards our most basic needs and also to unconscious aspects. These needs can be physical (food, sex, shelter, etc.) or affective (containment, love, attention, etc). If the final strokes are directed backwards, it is as if they were hoarding hands that take from the environment, from others, from situations, elements that we believe we need and keep them for us. Both, as well as others, make known a demanding personality, who permanently needs attention, care and affection since they otherwise feel insecure, unprotected. Having certain difficulties in seeing the needs of others have a tendency to take everything personally. This is the reason why these characteristics influence jealousy.
Among other things, the size of the letters has to do with the self esteem. At a smaller size, self-esteem is more deficient. So that they can have an objective parameter, the letters to be taken into account will be those of the middle zone (this means that they do not rise or fall above the vowels) They will not measure the letters q, t, y, p, d, h, f, g, j, l, b, instead they can do it with the letters w, e, r, u, i, o, a, s, ñ, x, c, v, n, m. Be sure to measure at least fifteen to have a good sampling and choose them at random. Another requirement is to measure them following their inclination so that the height is as accurate as possible. The letters that measure below 2.5mm will be small and those that are larger than 3.5mm. To classify a writing as large or small, there must be a majority of such font size in the writing.
As expected, those who have small writing, and therefore a self-esteem rather low or at least not firm, they need the approval of others and this can lead them to suffer from jealousy as they fall into competitions for the love or attention they need so much from people meaningful to them.
The blank sheet represents the vital space in which we move, and the writing represents us as to the way we position ourselves in this space. When the space between the edges of the sheet and the writing mass is large we are positioning ourselves in the center of the stage. That is, it is a way to get attention.
But in addition to this we are as crouched, protected in our own world as a sign of defense against an environment that is threatening in some respect. This may have to do with a real and objective situation or with a personal and subjective experience. The important thing is that someone who needs to be given permanent attention and is probably distrustful or afraid, for example, to be betrayed, it would not be illogical to assume that he can easily fall into jealousy.
The spaces that remain between the writing and the edge of the sheet are very wide and the writing seems to be centered as in a painting.
If we observe that the signature, whether readable or not, is wrapped in a feature as if it were to "keep" the name inside a protective bag, we are facing an enveloping rubric.
People who feel the need to protect themselves, to protect themselves and be sheltered by an imaginary uterus where nothing can hurt them usually sign with this trait. They may not socially demonstrate this feeling, but inwardly they are extremely sensitive and vulnerable. This protective layer often isolates them and makes it difficult for them to bond with others, who, without realizing it completely, demand permanent attention and affection. This leads them to warn their loved ones, and even more so to their most significant links and occupy a protective role (parents, husband, wife).
Unnecessary dots and dashes at the end of the paragraphs: In general, those who are accustomed to doing this type of strokes are distrustful people who seek to make clear what their terrain is in case someone could think of crossing that limit. They tend to suspect the actions of others and are permanently "on guard." They may not always react or demonstrate this lack of confidence in an excessive way, but they let them know that they are attentive to a possible deception.
Small hooks at the end of the words:
When we finish writing a word, we go to the next one leaving a blank space. The next word represents others and that space represents the link we generate between ourselves and others. The hooks, as if they were hooks, project the need to catch, to retain the people with whom we have strong emotional ties. We may know that healthy love implies freedom and in turn surrender, but inwardly we fail to master the permanent anguish that creates the possibility of being abandoned. Jealousy arises irremediably from this sense of insecurity.
Remember: A single trait does not indicate a personality characteristic. If instead, we find several indicators (in this case five or more) we can assume that this person suffers from jealousy, and surely that is the reason why he has constant conflicts with his loved ones.
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